When a parent is experiencing depression, it can be difficult for children to understand what’s going on and to know how to react. Children may feel confused, scared, or even responsible for their parent’s mood. Here are some common questions that children may have when a parent is depressed:
- “Why is mommy/daddy sad?” Children may not understand the concept of depression, and may wonder why their parent is not their usual happy self. It’s important to explain to children that depression is an illness, just like a cold or the flu, and that it’s not their fault.
- “Did I do something to make mommy/daddy sad?” Children may feel guilty or responsible for their parent’s mood, even if they haven’t done anything wrong. It’s important to reassure children that they are not to blame for their parent’s depression.
- “Will mommy/daddy get better?” Children may worry about their parent’s well-being and may be scared that things will never return to normal. It’s important to reassure children that depression is treatable and that their parent is getting the help they need.
- “Can I do anything to help?” Children may want to be helpful and may feel powerless in the face of their parent’s depression. It’s important to involve children in age-appropriate ways, such as helping with chores or spending quality time together.
- “Will I get depressed too?” Children may worry that they will inherit their parent’s depression or that they are somehow more susceptible to mental illness. It’s important to educate children about mental health and to encourage them to talk openly about their feelings.
When a parent is depressed, it’s important to communicate openly and honestly with children and to provide age-appropriate explanations and reassurances. It’s also important to seek help from a healthcare professional, as depression can impact the entire family and may require treatment.